15 Jul Top 6 Sexy Myths People are Wrong About
While talking about sex can cause much discomfort, it can be extremely important for any successful relationship, and while children are being exposed to sex much sooner than their parents would like, this does not mean that they understand it properly. Young people especially have different expectations when it comes to sex and relationships in general, and when it is not how they imagined it, they are dissatisfied, and all this leads to impossibly high standards. So, what are the common myths about sex that are still present?
1. Life is not Porn
This is actually the most common myth people have about sex. While porn tries to make everything seem perfect and there are no problems, no talking, no cuddling and emotions; we are only presented with this raw physical lust which is translated into a wrong idea in our heads. Due to this, we think that our sex life would be the same, while the opposite is actually true. In real life, people are stressed, riddled with problems, and are not always up for sex; this is actually a normal part of being a human.
2. Fantasizing is Not Cheating
It is normal for you, or your partner, to have fantasies while making love and thinking about other people. This also very normal, and this does not have to mean that you are bored of each other. It is just a healthy release of our inner desires, frustrations and needs, which we cannot discharge in any other way. Cheating is actually falling in love, and having physical contact with another person, while fantasizing is simply getting that out of your system, and you should not be ashamed. Talk with your partner, and try and introduce this in your bedroom.
3. Sex Changes over Time
Older people have sex, just like younger people. The only difference is that their bodies, and their personality have changed. It is even natural for younger couples to refrain from sex for a period of time, and when getting older, your sex life can become less frequent, less physical, but more of an emotional outlet. This is important, as you should never expect to have the same sex life you had when you were young, and expecting this can only lead to everyone being dissatisfied, which can cause additional problems.
4. No Place for Taboos in the Bedroom
If you truly love someone, you will be ready to listen to them, and respect their fantasies, no matter how kinky that may seem. Sex comes in a variety of shapes, forms and sizes, and everyone can look for their own unique preferences, and you should not be judgmental with your partner. You should have your own limits, and be ready to say what pleases you and what doesn’t, but be open to new experiences, since experimenting might just help you get to know each other better.
5. Sex is Not Everything
While sex is an extremely crucial part of any loving relationship, it is not the most important one. Sex is an extension of your affection towards each other, and you should not put additional emphasis on it, and if things are not the way you imagined them, either your expectations were way off, or you are simply not compatible. What would you rather have in the long run, great sex with someone who is not a good person, or average sex with someone you can imagine raising your family with.
6. Safety First
Whether you are in a long term relationship, or if you’re just looking for a one-night stand, you should always be careful about STDs. The easiest way is to use protection in the form of a condom, since this will prevent most STDs from transferring, but it will also prevent unwanted pregnancies. Never leave it up to you partner to think about condoms, and always be prepared. When it comes to your health, you’re the one responsible. Consult your urologist or gynecologist for additional tips of staying healthy, and ask about tests that you can take. Even if you only have one partner, you should visit your doctor regularly, as to make sure that everything is in order. Feel free to talk about this, as it concerns both you and your partner.
