04 Nov 9 Signs of a Healthy Post Divorce Relationship
According to the National Marriage and Divorce Rate Trends, the divorce rate is 3.2 percent per 1,000 people – and this is not a good number. While happily ever after may seem distant these days, there are still couples who remained friends even after signing the divorce papers – and not just for the kids’ sake.
Here are signs that you have a healthy post-divorce relationship with your partner:
No major hangups or obvious attachment issues with the kids. Divorce can be traumatic and painful. Nonetheless, if you and your partner are able to talk to each other and maintain healthy communication despite the child support issue, then you two have a healthy relationship. This includes healthy communication with your kids as well.
Any conversation about parenting, divorce, or relationships are not tense. It is normal to feel betrayed after the divorce. Nonetheless, it is important that you and your former spouse are able to accept what went wrong without any bitterness and resentment – even if you hear various stories from other people.
Constant sources of entertainment are not alcohol or TV. Are you often glued to the TV or constantly resort to alcohol to forget about your failed relationship? If no, then you are moving in the right direction, towards recovery.
No bad-mouthing of the ex spouse. This is a good post-divorce sign. Any bitterness, anger, or resentment towards your former spouse is a sign that you are not moving on and not helping yourself move on, which also leads to an unhealthy relationship with your ex.
There are no secrets. You know what you want; you’ve set your standards, and you are not afraid to share them. The best part is that your ex-spouse is genuinely happy for you and showing support for what you want to do with your life.
There is clarity in terms of intentions and an honest expression of attention and desire. It’s okay to date after the divorce. Still, make sure that you are clear with your intentions, especially if you are not planning to get into a relationship. Otherwise, you might end up in a rebound relationship, which is not a good sign.
Affection into any sexual relations does not change the overall tone of friendship with your ex. There might be instances when any of you could pull each other towards the bedroom for “old time’s sake.” Still, don’t use sex to ruin the friendship. Look for other ways to bond and appreciate each other more and see where it will lead you.
Former spouses put the kids first, ahead of the relationship. Prioritizing the kids more than getting into a new relationship is a good sign that you and your ex are having a good relationship.
No hesitation to meet the friends and family of the former spouse. Meeting or seeing her side of the family and or friends may be inevitable, especially if kids are involved. When you meet them and there is no feeling of hesitation, discomfort, or awkwardness, then you know that you two have a healthy relationship even after marriage.
Is your relationship with your former spouse healthy?
